My husband just dropped a life-altering piece of information on me. I’m not sure how to respond.
How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, My husband (trans man) and I (bisexual cis woman) have been married for eight years and have been in an open, polyamorous marriage for about four months after a lot of talking […]
My son wants to know when our life will “go back to normal.” I don’t know how to tell him it won’t.
Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Submit it here. Dear Care and Feeding, Just under four months ago, I learned my now-ex-husband was having an affair with a woman at his office, and I divorced him. The problem is that we have two kids, aged 1 and 5, […]
How To Not Mess Up A First Dinner Date: Jesse Mulligan’s Essential Dating Advice
In his fortnightly advice column, Viva’s resident Dining Out editor answers reader questions, sharing his expert recommendations and insider advice. There’s a girl in my class at university who I really like. We’ve hung out a bit and it’s never really been clear whether there’s anything going on or not. But today I asked her […]
Helen, Help Me: How to Recalibrate Your Kitchen
I think of myself as a good cook. I host dinner parties regularly, and I successfully tackle ambitious recipes. But for some reason I can’t for the life of me figure out baking. My cakes, breads, pastries, and cookies always come out dry and hard. I’m doing everything right, I think: I measure my ingredients […]
I Googled a co-worker when I was bored. What I found out has made it very difficult to work with her.
Good Job is Slate’s advice column on work. Have a workplace problem big or small? Send it to Laura Helmuth and Doree Shafrir here. (It’s anonymous!) Dear Good Job, I’ve been at my company for about three months. When I first started, I was in a meeting on Zoom with a larger team and it […]
I suspect my potential date might share something sensitive. I’m nervous about how to react.
How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I want to ask a woman I know through work out on a date. I don’t think this will be a big deal; we’ve met a few […]
We’d finally figured out how to handle my brother’s kids. Now they’re moving to our town.
Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Submit it here. Dear Care and Feeding, My brother and his wife have “Alfonso” (15) and “Gabriel” (16), who really don’t get along. The boys are both autistic with different needs. Alfonso is easily overstimulated by bright lights or loud sounds, and […]
Government seeks urgent advice on how to protect Auckland rock pools
“Kiwis, we’re fairly laidback and we make assumption that, when immigrants come to New Zealand, they won’t crap on the beach, they won’t slaughter all the periwinkles. Well, this is evidence that, as our democracy changes, we’re going to have to be more vigilant. “The New Zealand public has got to wake up to the […]
How to Make It Through Cold and Flu Season
You may not be able to prevent catching a cold or the flu, but you can greatly reduce your chances and decrease the likelihood that you’ll have a severe case if you do get sick. The well established advice meant to keep you healthy also protects others by reducing the spread of these diseases. Get […]
I’m haunted by a sexual mistake I made 15 years ago. I don’t know how to move forward.
Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years—so we’re diving into the How to Do It archives to share classic letters with our readers. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, About 15 years ago when I was in my early 20s, I dated a woman who I’d […]