Don’t ask ‘How are you?’ How successful people get others to like them: Psychology expert
The worst thing you can ask at the start of any interaction is: “How are you?” You’re essentially telling the other person that the interaction will be like every other interaction. They’ll most likely respond, “My day’s been busy. Good but busy.” It’s boring and generates a social script. I’ve spent the last 17 years […]
How to Survive Friend Group Drama—Without Picking Sides
Nothing splits up a friend group quite like internal beef—which is why when two people stop talking to each other, it puts the rest of the crew in a tough, lose-lose situation. Stay neutral? You risk seeming fake or “disloyal.” Pick a side? That might just fracture the group further. So how are you supposed […]
6 ways to answer ‘How are you?’ when you’re absolutely not ‘fine’
Unprecedented times are starting to feel like the new normal. With stocks falling and the threat of a recession looming, many of us are struggling. No one is untouched, whether you’re trying to lead a team through uncertain conditions, agonizing about whether your retirement funds could disappear, or worrying about your job security. What we […]
What Is ‘Cancer Ghosting’? Here’s How To Deal With It
“Cancer ghosting” is when people whom you thought would be around and offer support suddenly … [+] disappear after you’ve been diagnosed with cancer. (Photo: Getty) getty Few people would say, “Gee, I really would like to be ghosted.” That’s under any circumstances, let alone when they have cancer. But visit discussion forums like Reddit, […]
7 Strategies For A Great Friendship
Being a good friend is good for both of you. getty Having a good friend is one of the best things you can do for your health and happiness—and also for your friend’s wellbeing. Chances are, you’re careful about the friends you choose, but you’re also wise to focus on how you can be a […]
How to Be Less Judgmental
“Pausing helps us recognize, ‘For whatever reason, I’m looking through my judgy lens,’” Dr. Bonior says. “Then you can remind yourself that’s probably not the most accurate or helpful perspective.’” Sometimes, you can just notice a thought and let it go—a core part of meditation—before moving on to some of the other ideas on this […]
How to confront a friend who never pays you back
We’ve all had that one friend whose tab is perpetually growing. Venmo requests for a split group tab always seem to get overlooked or perhaps they do a symbolic reach for their wallet when the server places the bill on the table — but no money actually ever materializes. If you’re not particularly good at […]