This common issue can lead to a fear of success
I started working in finance as a bank teller when I was 21 years old. Surrounded by ambitious colleagues and wealthy clients, I was inspired to take more control of my money. I learned everything I could, picking up books about financial education, building my credit and focusing on my savings. I did not grow […]
6 ways to answer ‘How are you?’ when you’re absolutely not ‘fine’
Unprecedented times are starting to feel like the new normal. With stocks falling and the threat of a recession looming, many of us are struggling. No one is untouched, whether you’re trying to lead a team through uncertain conditions, agonizing about whether your retirement funds could disappear, or worrying about your job security. What we […]
I’ve spent 10 years studying how to age slower—the overlooked thing I do to stay younger and healthy
As a plastic surgeon, my job involves many kinds of so-called anti-aging procedures. But while they may make you look younger, the cells in your body won’t function the way younger cells do. That’s why I’ve spent thousands of hours over the past 10 years learning about a way of treating patients that I was […]
How to manage emotions that can sabotage you during salary negotiation
On the surface, salary negotiations seem to be about money and benefits, and most of us approach them that way. We limit ourselves to thinking about what we want in terms of dollars, perks, and packages. But as a negotiations professor and coach for almost 20 years, I know that for most of us, salary […]
How to ease into a satisfying retirement life
My research team at Harvard Business School and I spent a decade interviewing people to uncover the psychological, relational and life restructuring challenges of retiring — and how best to navigate them. We discovered that identity issues can loom large for people. That’s especially true in the early phases of retiring, when they grapple with […]
How to influence people and succeed at work: Executive coach
Why do decision-makers at work really choose one person for a role over another? What actually makes them trust someone’s judgment? How do they decide in practice who to tap for important opportunities? For the last 12 years, I’ve coached top performers at some of the world’s largest and most competitive Fortune 500 companies. As […]
The No. 1 kind of regret people have at the end of their lives
Of all the things I fear — spiders, needles, rejection — regrets take the cake. I have a deep-rooted fear of getting to the end and feeling woefully disappointed — not so much by the life I lived but by the life I didn’t live. In many ways, I have my mother to thank for […]
how to set boundaries at work—what to say
Long hours, heavy workloads, tight deadlines, job insecurity, a lack of control over your schedule and generally feeling unsupported can leave you feeling unhappy and discontented with your work environment. If gone unchecked for too long, this kind of chronic workplace stress can lead to job burnout. As a Harvard-trained psychologist, one of the best ways […]
I’ve spent 20 years studying how to raise successful kids—the most ‘overlooked’ skill parents should teach
As a psychologist, I’ve spent nearly 20 years studying how to care for and raise good humans. The overlooked skill I always tell new parents to teach is inner efficiency. Inner efficacy is an individual’s belief in their own capacity to do what it takes to meet their goals. Self-esteem might say, “I’m amazing!” but […]