Stop saying ‘I’ve been there’ when empathizing with others: Do this instead
As a journalist, a media executive and a communication coach, I’ve spent my entire career focused on helping people communicate what’s important to them One thing I’ve noticed: When it comes to empathizing with someone sharing a personal struggle — whether it’s the trials of a troublesome teenager or losing a job — many of […]
How to Be More Patient, According to Therapists
So just as important as practicing acceptance, then, is building empathy, both experts suggest. Before immediately snapping, sighing loudly, or muttering a passive-aggressive comment, try pausing to consider what else might be going on first: Maybe your barista’s slammed with 10 other complicated orders, for instance, or your housemate had a brutal week at work. […]
How to Be More Positive—Without Faking or Forcing It
A lot of us have trained ourselves to expect the worst—not because we want to be pessimists, but because figuring out how to be more positive often feels like an abstract concept, tied to forced, cheery mantras. It’s not just as simple as refusing to see silver linings. As humans, we’re actually biologically wired to […]
How to support your loved one as they go through the ‘hormonal chaos’ of perimenopause
When Carl began to notice some changes in his wife Allison’s behaviour — namely angry outbursts, brain fog, fatigue and feelings of low self-worth — he had no idea it was due to perimenopause. “I don’t think it dawned on her either, until she started to get more physical symptoms and we realised what was […]
This common issue can lead to a fear of success
I started working in finance as a bank teller when I was 21 years old. Surrounded by ambitious colleagues and wealthy clients, I was inspired to take more control of my money. I learned everything I could, picking up books about financial education, building my credit and focusing on my savings. I did not grow […]
How to manage ‘accidentally’ becoming important at work, expert says
Perhaps you, like the many U.S. employees who’ve posted viral memes and videos over the past couple years, accidentally became important at work. Maybe you offered help to a coworker one too many times, or agreed to stay late at the office to work on a project. Now, your favors have turned into unwanted expectations, […]
6 ways to answer ‘How are you?’ when you’re absolutely not ‘fine’
Unprecedented times are starting to feel like the new normal. With stocks falling and the threat of a recession looming, many of us are struggling. No one is untouched, whether you’re trying to lead a team through uncertain conditions, agonizing about whether your retirement funds could disappear, or worrying about your job security. What we […]
‘It is very natural. Even the most successful people in the world feel it’ – The Irish Times
Struggling to feel confident in our abilities, questioning our beliefs and attitudes, being indecisive in our actions and having negative thoughts or low expectations of ourselves can all culminate in low self-worth and debilitating self-doubt. This is part of a series called Wellness Wisdom When we feel uncertain in our lives, it can affect how […]
How to reduce stress and silence your inner critic
In 2024, 43% of adults said they felt more anxious than they did the previous year, according to an American Psychiatric Association poll. While the source of Americans’ stress varies – the economy, gun violence and climate change – the effects are the same. We become unproductive, unmotivated, and our own worst critic. That’s because […]
7 things that actually help, from a doctor
Google searches for “how to reduce stress” are at an all-time high. “I’m actually hearing from a lot of my own patients that they can’t remember the last time that they were this stressed and unable to see an end in sight,” says Dr. Neha Chaudhary, a double board-certified child, adolescent and adult psychiatrist. “The […]