‘Co-regulation’ is the new parenting buzzword: How to do it
The increasing popularity of “gentle parenting” has launched a new buzzword into the child-rearing landscape: co-regulation. Co-regulation refers to an adult helping a child soothe their own emotions during a stressful incident. Let’s say a child has a meltdown at the supermarket. Instead of admonishing them, gentle parenting, also known as responsive parenting, calls for […]
I’ve spent 20 years studying how to raise successful kids—the most ‘overlooked’ skill parents should teach
As a psychologist, I’ve spent nearly 20 years studying how to care for and raise good humans. The overlooked skill I always tell new parents to teach is inner efficiency. Inner efficacy is an individual’s belief in their own capacity to do what it takes to meet their goals. Self-esteem might say, “I’m amazing!” but […]
Teach your kids how to get angry
No parent looks forward to their child’s next tantrum. But instead of dreading it, treating each tantrum as a learning opportunity could help your child learn to better manage their emotions — a skill they’ll need to be happier and more successful as they grow up. After all, the occasional angry outburst is inevitable, says […]
Do you have an impatient or demanding kid? here’s how to respond
Parenting can be tricky. While we want to ensure that we provide the best of everything to our children, it is also important to be strict at times when we need to teach values and skills to the children. Children can act up at times – when they show tantrums or behave impatiently, it can […]
how to deal with missing your children when you’re away from them
It was last Monday that it truly hit. The recognition that I was going to be seeing my children for half of their childhood since divorcing. My kitchen clock showed 3.15pm, their school pick-up time. A wash of sadness came over me as I thought about them bundling out of school without me to scoop […]
What to say instead of ‘you can do anything’
Jose Luis Pelaez Inc | Digitalvision | Getty Images Despite your instincts, telling your child that they can do “anything” can be counterproductive. “‘You can do anything,’ is positive, but it’s very generalized,” according to Joanna North, a consultant psychotherapist. “I think that we need to draw it down to specifics for children, and [find] […]
How to respond to a rude comment from your in-laws
There are many environments where it would benefit you to check any people-pleasing tendencies at the door: work, romantic relationships, even friendships. Holidays at your in-laws’ house is not one of them, says Sara Jane Ho, a Harvard-trained etiquette expert. Ho is the founder of the finishing school Institute Sarita, host of the Netflix show […]
What to ask kids instead of ‘how was school?’
Courtney Hale | E+ | Getty Images “How was school?” and “How was your day?” aren’t the best questions to ask children after a day at school, according to psychologists. “‘How was your day?’ could mean 100 things,” Dr. Linda Papadopoulos, a psychologist, author and broadcaster, told CNBC by phone. “Those very wide questions are […]