Ways to deal with them, as per psychology
Manipulation is a subtle kind of control that can appear in personal relationships, the workplace, or also can be seen in social interactions. Manipulators tend to control the thoughts, emotions, and actions of other people for their advantage, sometimes not even being overtly aggressive. Identifying manipulative behaviour is essential to preserve your emotional safety and […]
How to say ‘no’—and get them to listen
Saying “no” is essential in parenting. But setting limits shouldn’t start and end with that one word. As a certified child life specialist and licensed therapist, I know that saying “no” is meant to help kids feel safe, supported, and understood. I often help kids understand: “Your parents aren’t saying ‘no’ to control you, they’re […]
The truth about narcissists: How to handle them, and can they change?
Looking back, the signs were obvious: an extreme need for control, a pathological tendency to exaggerate and an almost comical sense of superiority. My family member claimed to know more than everyone about everything, no matter the topic. He claimed to have the makings of a world-class teacher, doctor, writer or athlete, while also boasting […]
How to nurture the right mindset for living to 100
“I’m 87. I don’t feel 87, I don’t think like I’m 87,” declared Elaine Neuwirth on TikTok. “The most important thing is to get involved… interact with other people… have a purpose. Get up and move… Be part of the world.” Her words, now viewed by 3.6 million people and counting, capture the growing scientific […]
Don’t ask ‘How are you?’ How successful people get others to like them: Psychology expert
The worst thing you can ask at the start of any interaction is: “How are you?” You’re essentially telling the other person that the interaction will be like every other interaction. They’ll most likely respond, “My day’s been busy. Good but busy.” It’s boring and generates a social script. I’ve spent the last 17 years […]
How I get my kids to listen—in 5 seconds or less
Recently, I was talking to my two middle-school sons about the importance of listening the first time they’re asked to do something, especially when it really matters. But before I got far, my oldest interrupted, rolling his eyes: “Bruh, it’s not that deep.” “FYI, I’m not your bruh,” I replied. The exchange reminded me of […]
How to build emotional endurance, resilience
Being recognized as a resilient person feels great. Weathering the tough moments that build resilience is less glamorous. Developing emotional endurance, or the ability to withstand stress or discomfort without letting negative emotions overtake you, can help that process feel less grueling and more like an opportunity to learn and grow, Columbia University-trained psychologist Becky […]
The cost of loneliness can be death. Here’s how to find good friends
AUSTIN, Texas — After working from home all day, your takeout order arrives and you start binge-watching your favorite show alone. Sounds ideal, right? Except doing this routinely could shorten your life. And that’s not because of the nutritional content of your dinner. It’s because having strong, positive relationships is one of the best ways […]
Are you experiencing decision paralysis? Here’s how to move forward
In times of change, the pressure to make the “right” decision can feel overwhelming — like that single choice could make or break your future. Be it changing your career direction, deciding if (or when) to have a child or contemplating the end of a relationship, it’s easy to find yourself stuck in a cycle […]
Are you a victim of ‘dry begging’? Here’s how to make sure passive-aggressive manipulation doesn’t ruin your relationship
Even in the healthiest of relationships, conflicts are bound to arise. But how you deal with them speaks volumes about the strength of your bond. Passive-aggressive phrases like “I guess I’ll just do all of the laundry this week” or “most people would be happy their partner does this” are prime examples of “dry begging,” […]